Judging Others Based on Their Appearance Has Become a Societal Norm- And it Needs to End
This picture of Daria (right) is what inspired this blog post. I was scrolling through Pinterest last week and came across this picture and immediately thought "wow, that is so true." IS there anytime when your appearance doesn't affect how you're judged? WHY is our society so judgmental?
If you see a woman dressed in a business suit, your first thought might be "she must have a well paying job." If you see someone wearing sweatpants and a hoodie you might think "wow they need to get their shit together." But what if the woman in the business suit is the one with no job and the person wearing sweatpants is actually a CEO on their day off? We all have immediate judgement thoughts. It's basically human nature. The problem our society has is that we constantly make snap judgments, especially about things we don't know about!
My sister once said to me "Your first thought is how you were raised. Your second thought is what you really think." This is one of my favorite quotes and life lessons all in one. It's true. If you grew up in a very judgmental household (I'm raising my hand right now) then your first thought is probably going to be a judgement thought. I personally notice this happen often, and I absolutely hate it. My second thought is always something along the lines of "you don't need to judge them. Everyone is on their own path and doing their own thing." I know that my second thought is how I really feel. Yes, thoughts are just thoughts, but your mind can be down right evil sometimes.
I'm slowly getting to a less judgmental mind space and I'm really proud of myself for that. I'm very critical of myself and I think that's partly due to how I was raised, and also because I have an insanely overly critical mind. This brings me back to Daria's question: "Is there anytime when how you look doesn't affect how you're judged?" I wish the answer could be a straight up "no" but there is a lot of gray area in between. The world judges. The way you dress, do your makeup, wear your hair all tells something about you and people will automatically have their own opinion about it. For a long time I constantly concentrated on how I looked. If I wear this outfit will I be stared at? If I wear my hair this way will I get weird looks? I felt very self conscious, and even though I still do, over the past couple of years I have started to care less and less about what people think. I wear what I like not what I think will fit in best. I wear crazy eyeshadow colors and choose to not care if I get stared at. What I've noticed is that when I actually wear what I want to wear, I get more positive feedback than negative. People can sense a weak or strong confidence level, and they will either judge you for it or love you for it.
The moral of the story is that the world is going to judge. You just have to choose if you want to listen to their judgement. The most important thing is to not judge yourself and to not judge others. If you can stop being judgmental of other people, then I guarantee that you will become less critical of yourself.
VoiceBox is a judgment free zone. I want everyone to click on to the site, Instagram page or blog and instantly breathe a sigh of relief. I'm writing this in my pajamas, and I don't feel the slightest bit ashamed. I encourage all of you to block out those judgment thoughts, whether it's coming from your own mouth or someone else's. The world would be so much happier if we could all just live in peace and harmony. Let's strive for that goal everyday!
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